Christmas and Holiday Shows You Don’t Want to Miss

Looking for something kid- and grownup-friendly to do this holiday season? Perhaps a holiday or Christmas shows in metro Detroit might be the way to go to boost that Christmas spirit.

One of our favorite things to do around the holidays is to see a Christmas show. Last year, we loved ELF The Musical and Dr. Seuss’ How The Grinch Stole Christmas! The Musical. We’re looking forward to seeing those perfrormances again this year, as well as A Charlie Brown Christmas: Live On Stage.

We have rounded up the 2024 holiday stage performances and Christmas films to make your season merry and bright in metro Detroit.

Looking for more holiday fun? Don’t forget to check out our calendar for even more November and December events for the whole family.

This article was published on Oct. 17, 2024, by Metro Parent’s Audience Development Coordinator, Kari Zaffarano. It includes her adding holiday and Christmas shows to MetroParent.com‘s calendar and featuring the best holiday and Christmas shows to check out with your family in metro Detroit. Questions? Please reach out to kari@metroparent.com.

ELF The Musical at the Fox Theatre

Photo credit: Jeremy Daniel, 2022

Nov. 6-10, 2024

• Address: 2211 Woodward Ave., Detroit
• Cost: $25-plus

See Buddy the human who hid in Santa’s bag and lived his life as an elf heads to New York to find his real dad.

A Christmas Carol at Meadow Brook Theatre

Nov. 22-24, 29-30; Dec. 1, 3-8, 11-15, 18-22, 2024

• Address: 378 Meadow Brook Road, Rochester
• Cost: $37-plus

A crabby old man learns the true meaning of Christmas after he is visited by three ghosts on the night before Christmas.

A Charlie Brown Christmas: Live On Stage at the Fox Theatre

Photo credit: A Charlie Brown Christmas

Nov. 24, 2024

• Address: 2211 Woodward Ave., Detroit
• Cost: $25-plus

Join Charlie Brown, Snoopy, Lucy, Linus and the rest of the Peanuts gang in their journey to uncover the true meaning of Christmas.

Dearborn Symphony’s A Heartwarming Holiday at Michael A. Guido Theater

Nov. 24, 2024

• Address: 15801 Michigan Ave., Dearborn
• Cost: $30-plus

Dearborn Symphony’s A Heartwarming Holiday is a festive celebration filled with beloved favorites and magical moments. Enjoy a sing-along and keep an eye out for a special visit from Santa.

Dr. Seuss’ How The Grinch Stole Christmas! The Musical at the Fox Theatre

Photo credit: Jeremy Daniel

Nov. 27, 29-30, Dec. 1, 2024

• Address: 2211 Woodward Ave., Detroit
• Cost: $30-plus

The Grinch discovers there’s more to Christmas than he bargained for in this heart-warming holiday classic. The show will feature the hit songs “You’re A Mean One, Mr. Grinch” and “Welcome Christmas,” and more.

A Charlie Brown Christmas: Cyrus Chestnut and Friends at Max M. and Marjorie S. Fisher Music Center

Dec. 6, 2024

• Address: 3711 Woodward Ave., Detroit
• Cost: $19.95-plus

See master jazz pianist, Cyrus Chestnut as he infuses classic score from A Charlie Brown Christmas with his soulful sound.

Holiday Movies at Redford Theatre

Dec. 6-8, 13, 2024

• Address: 17360 Lahser Road, Detroit
• Cost: $7/adults, $5/kids and seniors

See holiday classic movies including Scrooged (1988) on Dec. 6, The Muppet Christmas Carol (1992) on Dec. 7, Home Alone (1990) on Dec. 7, and White Christmas (1954) on Dec 13. There’s even a holiday mystery movie on Dec. 8.

Let it Snow! at Max M. & Marjorie S. Fisher Music Center

Dec. 7, 2024

• Address: 3711 Woodward Ave., Detroit
• Cost: $21-plus

Get in the winter spirit and see Frosty and friends take in this snow-filled musical adventure.

Home Alone in Concert at the Max M. and Marjorie S. Fisher Music Center

Dec. 7, 2024

• Address: 3711 Woodward Ave., Detroit
• Cost: $59-plus

Enjoy a screening of the holiday classic, Home Alone, accompanied by music performed by the Detroit Symphony Orchestra.

Home for the Holidays at Max M. and Marjorie S. Fisher Music Center

Dec. 13-15, 2024

• Address: 3711 Woodward Ave., Detroit
• Cost: $20-plus

Enjoy a celebration of the holiday season featuring the Detroit Symphony Orchestra and an appearance from Santa Claus.

The Muppet Christmas Carol at Max M. and Marjorie S. Fisher Music Center

Dec. 20-21, 2024

• Address: 3711 Woodward Ave., Detroit
• Cost: $49-plus

See The Muppets’ beloved retelling of the holiday classic, A Christmas Carol, along with the Detroit Symphony Orchestra.

“‘Twas the Night Before…” by Cirque du Soleil at the Fox Theatre

Photo credit Kyle Flubacker, MSG Entertainment

Dec. 20-24, 26-31, 2024; Jan. 3-4, 2025

• Address: 2211 Woodward Ave., Detroit
• Cost: $46.50-plus

See thrilling acrobatics by international artists and soundtrack of Christmas classics reinvented by Cirque du Soleil.

Scotty Productions – A Motown Christmas at Michael A. Guido Theater

Dec. 21, 2024

• Address: 15801 Michigan Ave., Dearborn
• Cost: $39-plus

This 4th annual performance combines the sounds of Motown and Christmas classics.

Motor City Brass Band “Sounds of the Season” at Michael A. Guido Theater

Dec. 17, 2023

• Address: 15801 Michigan Ave., Dearborn
• Cost: $18/adult, $15/senior, free/under 12

Motor City Brass Band presents “Sounds of the Season” to welcome the holiday season with an afternoon of brass band music.

Leslie Odom, Jr.: The Christmas Tour at Max M. & Marjorie S. Fisher Music Center

Dec. 22, 2024

• Address: 3711 Woodward Ave., Detroit
• Cost: $89-plus

See Broadway star, Leslie Odom, Jr. as he joins the Detroit Symphony Orchestra for a special evening of Christmas, Broadway and popular hits.

Trans-Siberian Orchestra-The Lost Christmas Eve at Little Caesars Arena

Photo credit Jason McEachern

Dec. 28, 2024

• Address: 2645 Woodward Ave., Detroit
• Cost: $59.99-plus

See all-new, dazzling spectacle packed with pyrotechnics, lasers and the incredible storytelling synonymous with TSO in The Lost Christmas Eve tour.

WWE Live Holiday Tour at Little Caesars Arena

Dec. 30, 2024

• Address: 2645 Woodward Ave., Detroit
• Cost: $35-plus

This tour features Cody Rhodes, Bianca Belair, Jade Cargill, LA Knight, Solo Sikoa and many more.

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What to Do if You Discover Your Teenager is Having Sex

While fewer teens are sexually active these days, the CDC reports, it’s still a reality. And discovering that your teenager is having sex can be difficult for parents to process.

Beyond the emotional response, there’s the fact that sexual activity involving minors can have legal implications. However, reacting with anger or panic isn’t the solution.

Kaliopi E. Melistas, M.S., L.L.P., a child and adolescent psychologist with Henry Ford Health in Detroit, stresses the importance of staying calm and approaching the situation with care and open communication.

We connected with Melistas for her advice — originally with Christina Clark, a passionate youth advocate and former editor for Metro Parent. Kim Kovelle, Metro Parent’s long-time content specialist, updated it in late 2024 with the latest information.

Why it’s important to start conversations early

Melistas emphasizes the importance of having age-appropriate conversations about sex early on, starting in preschool and continuing into adolescence.

These discussions should evolve to cover:

• Identifying private parts
• Understanding healthy relationships
• The emotional consequences of sex
• STDs and pregnancy
• The risks of sexting and social media

“When you find out your kid is dating, it’s super important parents talk about what defines a healthy relationship,” says Melistas, “and what constitutes a healthy relationship, sex — and different types of abuse that happen.”

Be realistic about what you can control. “It’s our job as parents to give them as much information as we can and to help guide them,” Melistas adds. “The reality is, once they walk out that door, you can’t protect them from everything.”

That said, research shows that teens who do have open conversations about sex with their parents are more likely to use protection and may delay becoming sexually active.

Signs your teenager’s relationship might be serious

Melistas suggests teens shouldn’t date until around age 16 — after they’ve experienced friendships, have a good sense of self and can stand up for what they believe.

But it can vary by child. And, either way, parents should pay attention to behavioral changes.

“One of the first things we hear from parents is their kids aren’t sleeping, they aren’t eating, and they’re moodier,” Melistas says. Lying about where they are going or spending all their time with one person can also be red flags.

Watch for signs that your teen is losing interest in previously enjoyed activities, too, or becoming obsessed with their partner.

How to handle the situation if your teenager is having sex

If you find out your teenager is having sex, it’s crucial to gather information before reacting.

“Ask if they are being safe and if they are using protection,” Melistas advises. “At this point, you already know that they’re doing it, so telling them not to do it isn’t going to help.”

Instead, focus on educating them about the full range of consequences that come with sexual activity. “Explain that you could be on birth control and still get pregnant,” she says, “and talk about the emotional connection and what arises from that.”

And if you happen to walk in on your teenager in the act, try to stay calm. “At that moment, again, I think it’s important to say, ‘OK, we need to have a conversation,’” Melistas says. 

Setting limits on your teenager’s relationship

It’s important to talk openly about sex without creating a negative stigma. “There needs to be consequences,” Melistas says, “but there also needs to be a conversation about those consequences.”

Limiting freedoms is an appropriate response. This might include:

• Not allowing your teen to spend time alone at home with their partner
• Setting a curfew for when your teen must return home from dates
• Encouraging group activities instead of one-on-one time
• Requiring more check-ins or updates on their whereabouts
• Attending events or outings as a family to provide supervision in a casual way

To maintain safety and responsibility, it may be necessary to set stricter boundaries.

“Every situation is different, but the hope is that the conversations happen early enough.”

Involve the partner’s parents when setting boundaries

When your teenager is having sex with a partner, it’s often helpful for both sets of parents to communicate and agree on boundaries and safety measures.

“It’s difficult, but obviously the child is not participating in the activity by themselves,” Melistas says. “One of the things that we’ve seen happen is the parents will talk to each other and come to a consensus of having the conversation together.”

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Baby or Toddler Headbutting? Learn the Causes and Solutions

Is your baby or toddler headbutting the wall, their sibling — or even you? Don’t panic. This behavior is more common than you think!

Around 20% of children headbutt, according to the American Pediatric Association, and it tends to be more common in boys. Discover why it happens and how to prevent or manage it.

Why babies and toddlers start headbutting

Often, headbutting is a way young kids try to express themselves when they can’t verbally.

“It’s similar to any tantrum,” says Dr. Tisa Johnson-Hooper, a pediatrician with Detroit-based Henry Ford Health. “It’s usually brought on by frustration or lack of attention.”

Reasons also might include:

• Seeking attention from parents or caregivers
• Self-soothing to calm down or fall asleep (it mimics the movements they experienced in the womb)
• Expressing anger, excitement or other emotions
• Responding to physical pain, like teething or an ear infection

This behavior typically peaks around 18 months, though it can start as early as 6 months. And it can last until children develop better language skills, usually between ages 3 and 4.

How to prevent headbutting before it starts

Preventing headbutting begins with identifying triggers. Pay attention to when your toddler is more likely to headbutt — is it when you’re on the phone or busy with something else?

If your child is headbutting for attention, try setting up engaging activities like toys or games to keep them occupied while you’re busy.

Dr. Johnson-Hooper also suggests parents keep track of these incidents.

“When a parent comes to me with this issue, the first thing we do is go over the history,” says Dr. Johnson-Hooper. “We review what happened before, during and after the behavior.”

This can help you understand what your child is trying to communicate — and find patterns.

Keeping your child safe while headbutting

Fortunately, headbutting rarely leads to serious injury.

“It’s unlikely they will do it hard enough to hurt themselves more than once,” Johnson-Hooper says. Still, minor bruising is possible. Consider these safety precautions:

• Ensure they’re on a soft surface like a carpet or mat
• Remove any hard or sharp objects that might be in the area
• Pad their crib/bed, walls or nearby furniture to soften hard surfaces (but avoid excess pillows or blankets to prevent suffocation risks)
• Supervise and move them to a safe space if needed

Ignoring the behavior: Why less is more

That said, the best way to stop toddler headbutting is often to ignore it. Like tantrums, headbutting is often reinforced when it gets attention.

“Even picking up your child to stop the behavior can reinforce it,” says Dr. Johnson-Hooper.

Instead, if you’re concerned about their safety, place them in their crib or another safe space and leave the room.

This helps them calm down while you avoid giving the behavior more attention.

When to seek help or additional tips

If the headbutting persists for several months or seems unusually intense, consider contacting your pediatrician. Again, it could also be a sign of pain, which you’ll want to rule out.

Also, parents often worry that headbutting may indicate a developmental disorder like autism. 

While headbutting alone isn’t usually a cause for alarm, though, watch for other signs like delayed speech, lack of eye contact or repetitive behaviors, experts say.

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These Are The Top 10 Diverse Places to Live in Macomb County

Choosing a diverse community to raise your family can greatly influence your child’s perspective on the world. Niche, a top-ranking website for towns, schools, and colleges, has just released its 2024 list of the Most Diverse Places to Live. This report showcases the most diverse communities in Macomb County for families, using a variety of key factors.

The rankings are based on ethnic and economic diversity data sourced from the U.S. Census. Explore which cities in Macomb County offer the most inclusive environments for families. Learn more about the ranking methodology here.

This story was updated on Oct. 15, 2024 by Metro Parent’s Audience Development Manager, Katina Beniaris. Her update included adding a graphic. Questions? Please email katina@metroparent.com.

Most diverse places to live in Macomb County

1. Center Line 

• Average home value: $131,900
• Population: 8,493

Center Line’s diverse neighborhoods and proximity to bigger cities like Royal Oak and Detroit make it a good choice for families wanting a peaceful neighborhood within driving distance to downtown life. 

2. Eastpointe 

• Average home value: $115,100
• Population: 34,087

This suburb of Detroit offers residents a good cost of living and outdoor activities as well as pleasant parks and summer festivals. 

3. Warren 

• Average home value: $169,300
• Population: 138,588

This large Michigan city offers families a large number of options for schools. The town has a sparse suburban feel with plenty of family activities, parks, restaurants and festivals, too. 

4. Mount Clemens 

• Average home value: $150,900
• Population: 15,679

Mount Clemens offers its diverse residents access to art centers, farmers markets, museums and more. 

5. Roseville 

• Average home value: $129,400
• Population: 47,476

This suburb offers residents plenty of shopping options plus quick access to downtown Detroit and a short drive to the lakefront. 

6. Clinton Charter Township 

• Average home value: $198,800
• Population: 100,107

Clinton Charter Township’s park systems are top notch. Paired with an above average housing market and cost of living, it’s a good choice for families. 

7. New Haven

• Average home value: $176,400
• Population: 6,200

New Haven’s Wetzel State Recreation Area and access to the Clinton River is a big draw for residents and visitors alike.

8. Sterling Heights 

• Average home value: $243,400
• Population: 133,744

As the second largest suburb in Metro Detroit, and the fourth largest city in Michigan, Sterling Heights has many options for families. It earns a “B+” both in the public schools and good for families categories from Niche.

9. Utica

• Average home value: $199,600
• Population: 5,195

This diverse suburb boasts a small historic district as well as many walking paths and small shops. 

10. Romeo

• Average home value: $228,800
• Population: 3,727

Romeo has a suburban and rural mix and a smaller population. As well as being diverse, it earns a “B+” in public schools and good for families categories from Niche.

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See the Center Line Public Schools 2024-2025 Academic Calendar

Schools calendars provide families with a snapshot of the entire year.

Holidays breaks, the first day of school and professional development days vary school by school, so it’s a great idea to keep it handy. Here is the 2024-25 school calendar as approved by Center Line Public Schools‘ school board.

Important 2023-2024 school year dates

A few key dates you’ll want to bookmark:

• First Day of School: Sep. 3, 2024
• Thanksgiving Break: Nov. 27-29, 2024
• Winter Break: Dec. 23, 2024 – Jan. 3, 2025
• Mid-Winter Break: Feb. 17-21, 2025
• Spring Break: Apr. 24-28, 2025
• Last Day of School: Jun. 13, 2025

See the full calendar below or visit clps.org

2024-2025 Center Line Public Schools Academic Calendar

August 2024

• PD: Aug. 27-28, 2024
• Teacher Workday: Aug. 29, 2024

September 2024

• 1/2 day all Students: Sep. 3, 2024
• 1/2 Day K Students: Sep. 4-6, 2024
• Staff Meeting: Sep. 10, 2024
• Early Release: Sep. 18, 2024

October 2024

• Staff Meeting: Oct. 8, 2024
• 1/2 Day K-8 Students: Oct. 10, 2024
• Early Release: Oct. 16, 30, 2024
• Records Day 1/2 Day K-12 students: Oct. 25, 2024

November 2024

• PD: Nov. 1, 5, 2024
• Staff Meeting: Nov. 12, 2024
• Early Release: Nov. 13, 2024
• No School | Thanksgiving Break: Nov. 27-29, 2024

December 2024

• Staff Meeting: Dec. 10, 2024
• Early Release: Dec. 11, 2024
• Final Exams 1/2 Day 9-12: Dec. 19, 2024
• Record Day 1/2 Day K-12 Students: Dec. 20, 2024
• No School | Holiday Break Begins: Dec. 23-31, 2024

January 2025

• Classes Resume: Jan. 6, 2025
• Staff Meeting: Jan. 14, 2025
• Early Release: Jan. 15, 2025

February 2025

• Early Release: Feb. 5, 26, 2025
• 1/2 Day K-8 Students: Feb. 6, 2025
• Staff Meeting: Feb. 11, 2025
• No School | Mid-Winter Break: Feb. 17-21, 2025

March 2025

• Staff Meeting: Mar. 11, 2025
• Early Release: Mar. 12, 2025
• Records Day 1/2 Day K-12 Students: Mar. 14, 2025
• No School | Spring Break: Mar. 24-28, 2025
• PD: Mar. 31, 2025

April 2025

• Staff Meeting: Apr. 8, 2025
• Early Release: Apr. 2, 23, 2025
• No School: Apr. 18, 2025

May 2025

• Staff Meeting: May 13, 2025
• Early Release: May 7, 21, 2025
• 1/2 Day K-12 Students: May 21, 2025
• No School: May 26, 2025

June 2025

• Staff Meeting: Jun. 10, 2025
• 1/2 Day 612 Students: Jun. 12, 2025
• Records Day 1/2 Day K-12 Students: Jun. 13, 2025

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Is Your Child Ready For Their First Cellphone This Year? Here’s What Experts Say

Many kids get their first phone as a gift. In fact, according to a 2022 study in JMIR Pediatrics and Parenting, 59.1% of participants (kids ages 4-18) reported getting their first cellphone simply because they asked for one. During the holiday season, asks for big-ticket items such as cellphones aren’t uncommon.

From the time kids understand what cellphones are and all their fun uses, they beg for one of their own—but this commitment requires careful consideration by parents before handing over such a big responsibility.

So, how do parents know their child is ready for their first phone? Spokeo analyzed cellphone ownership rates among children and gathered tips from child development experts for determining cellphone readiness.

How many kids actually have their own phones?

The first step in assessing cellphone readiness is understanding the current landscape. A 2023 Pew Research Center survey showed 97% of Americans own a cellphone and this use often starts at a very young age. Another Pew survey in 2020 found that, although younger kids don’t typically own their own devices, almost half of children under 2 use smartphones in some capacity.

As kids grow older, cellphones only become more prevalent. According to Common Sense Media, child phone ownership exploded between 2015 and 2021, increasing from 24% to 43% among 8- to 12-year-olds and from 67% to 88% among 13- to 18-year-olds.

Although the COVID-19 pandemic accelerated this growth, the increasingly diverse uses of mobile phones encourage children of all ages to want one of their own. Kids use cellphones for entertainment by browsing websites, watching videos on YouTube, and playing mobile games. Phones are also a key means of communicating with peers, whether through texting and video chats or social media apps like Instagram and TikTok. People also use cellphones for educational activities like reading. In 2021, Common Sense Media reported that kids aged 8 to 18 spent an average of over 30 minutes per day reading for fun, including e-books and online articles easily accessed on smartphones.

With cellphone use all but inevitable in this day and time, parents must carefully consider the possible negative effects. Many studies have shown that prolonged screen time during childhood may affect development and has links to health issues, including decreased physical activity, obesity, sleep disruption, eye pain, and headaches. These concerns are understandable, given that a Stanford Medicine study published in 2022 revealed the average kid gets their first phone at just 11.6 years old. Daily screen time also tends to increase with age. For example, teenagers in 2021 spent three hours more on screens than tweens, averaging over 8.5 hours per day, according to Common Sense Media.

The impact on youth mental health has also been closely examined. A 2020 review of previous research suggests a link between smartphone use and increased mental health symptoms like self-harm and suicide risk. However, the same Stanford Medicine study mentioned above followed more than 250 children for five years and showed no correlation between cellphone ownership—or the age at which a child gets their first phone—and issues like depression or sleep patterns.

To prevent these potentially harmful effects, countries have set various guidelines over the years, including recommended limits on the frequency and duration of use. However, a lack of evidence to support the efficacy of screen time limits led the American Academy of Pediatrics to update its guidelines in 2016. They now focus on the appropriateness and quality of the content kids are accessing rather than a specific amount of time.

Is your child ready for their own phone?

Giving a child their first cellphone opens the gates to the internet, social media, and more, but understanding what research and experts suggest can help parents plan for this milestone and feel confident in their decision.

With over 15 years of experience working with children and families, clinical social worker Aethena Enzer-Mahler has many tips on what parents should consider before handing over a phone to kids.

Because a child’s brain development continues well into their 20s—including key areas like the prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for decision-making—Enzer-Mahler told Stacker a child’s developmental age is just as important to consider as their chronological age. To ensure a child is responsible enough to own a phone, she encourages parents to consider questions like the following: “Typically, can the child keep track of their things, would they be able to remember to keep their cellphone charged, keep track of it and keep it safe during the school day, as well as generally take care of it?”

Jenny Radesky—an assistant professor at the University of Michigan Medical School whose research focuses on mobile technology, child development, and parenting—recommends similar questions in a 2023 article for the American Academy of Pediatrics. She finds it helpful to assess factors including: “Does your child have a strong sense of responsibility and impulse control, or do they tend to act before thinking? Do they need your help with making good decisions, or do you trust their judgment when they are unsupervised?”

After considering basic responsibility, discuss how the child plans to use their phone and if they are ready for the implications of this use. Do they want to make calls to parents and friends, or are they also seeking increased access to the internet and social media? According to Radesky, kids aren’t always ready to handle the issues that may arise with having a phone: “Some teens have actually said they regret getting a smartphone early. These kids didn’t realize they would have so many new distractions or social drama in their lives.”

Along these lines, Enzer-Mahler warns that “when we check our phones, no matter our age, we get a little dopamine boost, which is part of how people become so easily attached.” Dopamine is a powerful hormone involved in mood regulation. Because the teenage brain has more dopamine receptors, this age group is more sensitive to the positive and negative emotions accompanying peer interactions via cellphones.

Enzer-Mahler says to “imagine your child is waiting to hear from friends on their cellphone and then gets a notification. The notification creates a sense of pleasure and excitement. But what if the notification is that the friends are hanging out without you?” Mental health and resilience can vary, so some kids may handle these situations better than others, indicating varying levels of cellphone readiness.

Like most aspects of child-rearing, it is also imperative to consider the relationship between parent and child. Solid foundations of trust and open communication go a long way in creating a positive experience around a kid’s first phone. “The more a child is willing to have an open dialogue with their parents about cellphone use, and expectations, the better the whole process will go,” Enzer-Mahler said.

Keeping kids safe in the digital era

Once the decision has been made, how can parents keep an eye on their child’s cellphone use to promote safe and responsible phone ownership?

According to Enzer-Mahler, a little work on the front end can have big payoffs. “To begin, it’s always good to set healthy boundaries, especially around the quantity of time on the phone and making sure that phones are not kept in a child’s bedroom.” Talking openly about how the phone will be used and what online safety looks like is also critical, and should be done in conjunction with the child to create plans that both parties buy into.

Equally important, according to Radesky, is establishing time to check in and discuss experiences kids might be facing with their newfound phone use. This can be as simple as setting a regular time to touch base each week or having the child share when they start using new apps and games. “Often concerns about inappropriate behavior or bullying or even threats can originate online,” Enzer-Mahler said, “so it’s valuable that a parent be able to look at that and talk about it with their child.”

In addition to ongoing open communication, Radesky stresses parents should “make the effort to know what kinds of features there are to support safe and positive media use. These may include parental controls, settings, filters, timers, and other digital wellness tools available on devices and apps.” Apple Screen Time and Google Family Link are apps that allow parents to set daily limits on use and control what content is accessible to their children. Qustodio offers enhanced features, including the ability to monitor calls and texts. Starting with such controls in place is a good idea; restrictions can be eased over time as the child demonstrates responsible phone use. Many parents—half of those surveyed in the 2023 Pew Research Center study—also look through their child’s phone.

Perhaps the most effective way parents can ensure phone safety, according to Enzer-Mahler, is by modeling healthy phone use and boundaries. Parents can teach kids what responsible cellphone use looks like by taking simple steps such as giving children attention when they seek it, putting phones aside during family time, or not checking messages during conversations. As Radesky cautions, “Remember that kids learn as much from watching us as they do from our well-intended lectures! If you look at your phone while driving or during meals, they are likely to do the same.”

Story editing by Carren Jao. Additional editing by Kelly Glass. Copy editing by Kristen Wegrzyn. This story originally appeared on Spokeo and was produced and
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Spouse or Roommate? What to Do When It’s Getting Hard to Tell

Before we became a couple more than a decade ago, my husband and I were browsing at the mall when I stumbled on a pair of pink heart earrings I really wanted. I didn’t have the extra cash, though, so I put them back and walked away. Days later, before he left for a European trip, we met for coffee and he handed me a gift: It was those same earrings I’d been eyeing.

“I knew you liked these, so I went back and got them for you,” he said.

I smiled. It was one of the sweetest things anyone had ever done for me — and among the many reasons I fell in love with him at age 19.

This article was recently updated on Oct. 14, 2024 by Metro Parent’s Audience Development Manager, Katina Beniaris. The update included her reviewing the article and adding the most recent information. Questions? Please reach out to katina@metroparent.com.

When the magic fades and facing disconnect 

The earliest stage of a romantic relationship is heart-fluttering. It’s when couples are most thoughtful and engaged. It’s when you really get to know each other. Every moment together is magic.

But that era, and the passion that comes with it, is fleeting. As the years go by, the intensity fades into something different.

For us — after five years of marriage under our belts and a baby at home — it has faded into conversations about housework and child care duties.

At the end of most days, we’re sitting on separate couches staring at our phones, barely speaking. The thrill, as they say, is gone.

And that’s not uncommon for couples. In fact, it’s one of the reasons they seek therapy, says Shirley Bavonese, a certified social worker and licensed marriage and family therapist at the Relationship Institute.

“It’s usually happening in long-term relationships. After a year to a year-and-a-half of a committed relationship, the romantic period is dissolved and it moves on to another stage of intimacy,” Banovese says. “People have to understand that intense connection is going to ultimately change into something quieter.”

But as time goes on, issues inevitably arise. And often, when couples can’t find solutions they either avoid fights, Banovese says, or they have the same old arguments.

“That sours the connecting — cools it off,” she adds. “They are feeling like the relationship is stuck, stale, not moving anywhere. They often use the term ‘roommate.'”

More couples experience this than you realize, says Joe Kort, a sex and relationship therapist and founder of the Center for Relationship and Sexual Health in Royal Oak. “Couples don’t talk about it, which is why people don’t talk about it,” Kort says. “It’s embarrassing.”

But it’s also reality — particularly once the little ones arrive.

“It often happens, and it’s normal that it happens after you have children,” Kort says. “You’re up all night, you’re tired,” and moms don’t have much left for their husbands. “Now you feel like brother and sister.” Talk about a relationship shift.

There’s hope, though, for couples whose relationships have “cooled” and connections are crumbling. Here are five ways to reconnect with your spouse.

Phubbing and other habits that hurt your connection

Are you scrolling through your Facebook feed or texting instead of talking to your partner? Then you’re “phubbing” — aka snubbing someone with your phone.

While it’s easy to blame technology, devices aren’t entirely the problem. “It’s not the technology,” Kort says. “It’s the way the technology is being used.”

So set boundaries around phone use.

“Make it clear to your partner: ‘I’m going to be on my phone for a little bit,'” Kort says. Allow your partner that time on his phone — whether it’s 30 minutes or one hour — without giving him grief for it. After that time, make an agreement that, for example, after 8 p.m. you’ll both put your phones away for the night.

Nix the kid talk

“When did the baby last eat?” “Did you help Ava with her science project?” “Am I driving Ryan to practice?”

As parents, it’s easy to fall into the pattern of talking solely about your kids, but there has to be more to your conversations than your child.

“Both parties need to bring something to the table,” Banovese says. “Whether you have a roommate, a lover or a marriage partner, you have to think about: What’s it like to live with you if all you talk about is the color of poop?”

Instead, a Women’s Health magazine article titled “6 Things You and Your Partner Should Talk About Every Day” suggests couples talk about their goals (both professionally and personally), discuss their plans for the future and even chat about their health.

Banovese also recommends talking about politics or hobbies, whether they’re shared or you’re learning something new about your significant other.

Reclaiming time together with shared activities

Kick it old school and spend time together — just the two of you.

“They should be making time for each other separate from the kid,” Kort says. Sometimes people do that by laying side by side in bed on Sunday morning, he says, or by talking on the phone when they are away from each other.

Or book a babysitter and have date night.

Share a hobby? People with common interests are successful in relationships, Banovese says. “I think when you are dating, it’s good to evaluate that you both have some common interests that are beyond going to dinner and going to a movie,” she adds.

If you don’t currently have common interests, don’t fret. Explore things you can do together.

“If you both had not done rock climbing, do a date rock climbing,” Banovese suggests. Even if you end up hating it, it’s something that you did together — and that’s a memory for the two of you.

Crafting a shared vision with relationship goals

Whether it’s division of household chores, child care responsibilities or intimacy, every person has expectations for what they think they should be getting out of their marriage. If your expectations don’t align, Kort encourages couples to do “mutual vision” homework.

“They go home and she writes down her vision of what she wants in a relationship and he writes down his vision,” he says.

This method is based on information from best-selling author Harville Hendrix’s 1988 book “Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples”.

To do this, couples work separately to write down sentences for non-negotiables and desires. When writing your vision for your relationship, focus on different areas: sex and romance, finances, communication, parenting, in-laws, leisure activities and work.

Once you’ve both created your vision, sit down together to create a vision you can both agree on.

“Post your relationship vision where you see it daily. Read (it) together with your partner once a week, check if you are on target — this will help you make daily choices that will turn your vision into a reality,” notes Austrian website The Local in a post on Hendrix’s approach. “Update and tweak your relationship vision once a year to fit your current needs.”

Why marriage counseling can help save your relationship

“When people think about marriage counseling, a lot of times they’ll come in and go, ‘We don’t scream and fight like that,'” Banovese says.

But that’s far from the only reason people see therapists.

“Marriage counseling isn’t for screamers. It’s for small nuances,” like the eye rolls you give when your partner is talking. “All of those speak volumes,” she adds.

And a therapist’s main goal is to help couples work through their conflict and find ways to reconnect emotionally and physically — not prepare for divorce.

“If you start dealing with conflict, if you get out of that difficult, dark pattern and start dealing with the conflict and being more vulnerable with each other … then you’re going to want to connect with your partner and you’ll make time for more intimacy.”

And even if you’re the one who doesn’t think there’s a problem — or you’re afraid to seek therapy because you don’t know what’s going to happen or feel it will force the two of you to break up — you should still make the effort to see a therapist if that’s what your partner wants.

“It’s important for him then to validate and hear her experience — why it feels like a problem for her,” Kort says. “To help her resolve the problem, he has to be part of the solution.”

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Win Four Tickets to Holiday Walk at Meadow Brook Hall

Deck the (Meadow Brook) halls!

Families can enjoy the annual Holiday Walk at Meadow Brook Hall from Nov. 29-Dec. 23, 2024. Families can see the historic mansion featuring 50 magnificent trees, flickering fireplaces and lights galore.

Fill out the below form by Friday, Dec. 6, 2024, for your chance to win four tickets to Holiday Walk at Meadow Brook Hall.

This sweepstakes begins on Oct. 15 2024 and ends on Dec. 6, 2024. One prize (valued at $84) will be awarded to one winner, who will be notified via the email they provided in the entry. 

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Win Four Tickets to Winter Wonder Lights at Meadow Brook Hall

Get into the holiday spirit!

Families can come see an interactive light experience, Winter Wonder Lights at Meadow Brook Hall Nov. 29-Dec. 30, 2024. You’ll be able to explore the National Historic Landmark at its most festive time and enjoy seasonal and specialty beverages, glow-in-the-dark cotton candy and popcorn, bonfires and more.

Fill out the below form by Friday, Dec. 13, 2024, for your chance to win four tickets to Winter Wonder Lights at Meadow Brook Hall.

This sweepstakes begins on Oct. 15 2024 and ends on Dec. 13, 2024. One prize (valued at $92) will be awarded to one winner, who will be notified via the email they provided in the entry. 

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Brighten Your Holiday with Metro Detroit’s Dazzling Light Displays

When I’m itching for the holidays to roll around, the first thing I do is searching the best Christmas lights near me. Head out to one of these fun holiday displays bringing thousands of lights in metro Detroit that are sure to illuminate the spirit.

I’ve gathered a list of some of the best events to go to see dazzling holiday lights. Some of my favorites including stopping at Meadow Brook Hall to see the decorated Christmas trees and all of the beautiful lights outside at Winter Wonder Lights. Wild Lights at the Detroit Zoo is also a must-see!

Be sure to check out these amazing holiday light displays in metro Detroit with your family.

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Wayne County Lightfest at Merriman Hollow Park

Nov. 21-Dec. 24, 2024 (Wednesdays-Sundays)

• Address: 7651 Merriman Road, Westland
• Cost: $5/car (cash only)

A magical five-mile stretch of Hines Park, displaying nearly 50 animated and themed displays, and more than 100,000 lights.

Holiday Lighted Parade and Tree Lighting Ceremony

Nov. 22, 2024

• Address: Downtown Northville
• Cost: Free

At this lighted holiday parade, see floats, dancers, bands and of course, Santa Claus. The parade begins at 6 p.m. and will be followed by the official tree lighting in Town Square.

Magic of Lights at Pine Knob Music Theatre

Nov. 22-Dec. 30, 2024

• Address: 33 Bob Seger Drive, Clarkston
• Cost: $23/standard vehicle advanced ticket, $30/standard vehicle on weekday, $35/standard vehicle on weekend

Drive thru this holiday themed light display with different characters and themes using the latest LED technology and digital animations.

Downtown Rochester Festival of Trees at Rochester Community House

Nov. 23-24, 2024

• Address: 816 Ludlow Ave., Rochester
• Cost: Free

This festival features trees, wreaths and centerpieces designed and donated by the community.

Wild Lights at the Detroit Zoo

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Nov. 23-24, 29-30; Dec. 1, 6-8, 12-23, 26-31, 2024; Jan. 2-5, 2025

• Address: 8450 W. Ten Mile Road, Royal Oak
• Cost: $17-$26

Encounter enchanting animal-themed light sculptures that bring a whimsical touch to the festive season and create a magical experience for all ages. Be prepared to be mesmerized by millions of twinkling LED lights transforming the Zoo into a winter wonderland.

The Big Bright Light Show in Downtown Rochester

Nov. 25, 2024-Jan. 19, 2025

• Address: Downtown Rochester, Main St. from South Bridge to Romeo Road and Fourth St. from Walnut to Water streets 
• Cost: Free

Downtown Rochester is decked in 1.5 million lights, brightening up buildings every evening.

Holiday Stroll at Canterbury Village

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Nov. 29-30; Dec. 6-8, 13-15, 20-23, 2024

• Address: 2325 Joslyn Court, Lake Orion
• Cost: $14.99-plus/person, free/parking

Stroll through the quaint village that transforms into a winter wonderland, glowing with almost a million festive lights. Also, enjoy an amazing seven-minute light show choreographed to classic holiday songs, hear the sounds of professional carolers and view live Christmas performances.

Holiday Walk at Meadow Brook Hall

Nov. 29-Dec. 23, 2024

• Address: 350 Estate Drive, Rochester
• Cost: $21/ages 13-plus, $8.50/ages 3-12, free/ages 0-2 and OU Students

Take a walk around the historic house and grounds to see more than 50 decorated trees. Advanced tickets required.

HollyDazzle at the Michigan Renaissance Festival

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Nov. 29-30; Dec. 1, 6-8, 13-15, 20-24, 27-31, 2024

• Address: 12600 Dixie Hwy., Holly
• Cost: $21.95/ages 13-plus, $21.95/one adult and one child bundle, $8.95/ages 5-12, free/ages 4 and under; free/parking

Walk the three-quarter mile outdoor trail, which is adorned with over a dozen mesmerizing Christmas scenes. Visit with Santa Claus, experience a Polar Pub Crawl, join the Holiday Token Hunt and more.

The Big Reveal at Indian Springs Metropark, Environmental Discovery Center

Nov. 29-30; Dec. 1-6, 2024

• Address: 5175 Indian Trail, White Lake
• Cost: Free; parking pass required

Bring your camera to take pictures of Indian Springs Metropark’s “underwater snow globe,” holiday trees, lights and more.

Winter Wonder Lights at Meadow Brook Hall

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Nov. 29-Dec. 30, 2024

• Address: 350 Estate Drive, Rochester
• Cost: $23/ages 13-plus, $13/ages 3-12, free/ages 0-2 and OU Students

Visitors can explore the National Historic Landmark at its most festive time. There will be seasonal beverages, glow-in-the-dark cotton candy and popcorn, bonfires and more. Advanced tickets required.

Home for the Holidays at Ford House

Nov. 30; Dec. 6-8, 13-15, 20-22, 2024

• Address: 1100 Lake Shore Road, Grosse Pointe Shores
• Cost: Ticket prices coming soon

Enjoy stunning light displays throughout the estate on a one-mile walk around the Ford House grounds. Also, explore the Main Residents, enjoy a complimentary hot chocolate, visit and take a photo with Santa Claus and more.

Holiday Nights in Greenfield Village

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Dec. 5-8, 11-15, 18-23, 26-28, 2024

• Address: 20900 Oakwood Blvd., Dearborn
• Cost: $32.50-$38/ages 12-plus, $29.25-$34.25/ages 62-plus, $24.25-$28.50/ages 5-11, free/ages 4 and under

Walk the candle-lit village streets to see live entertainment, shops decked out for the holidays and lots of free activities. Plus take a horse-drawn carriage ride, go ice skating and watch the marvelous fireworks display.

Holiday Lights at the Farm at Wolcott Mill Metropark, Farm Center

Dec. 6-8, 13-15, 20-21, 2024

• Address: 65775 Wolcott Road, Ray
• Cost: $8/person, free/under 2

Stroll through and enjoy traditional holiday decorations and thousands of sparkling lights. Visit with Santa and the resident animals, listen to holiday music and take a tractor-drawn wagon ride around the farm fields. Dress for the weather. Pre-registration required.

Orion Lighted Christmas Parade

Dec. 7, 2024

• Address: Downtown Lake Orion
• Cost: Free

See Michigan’s largest lighted Christmas parade in downtown Lake Orion. The businesses downtown are encouraged to add lights and decorate their storefronts.

Trail of Lights at Robert Williams Nature & Historical Learning Center

Dec. 7-8, 13-15, 20-22, 2024

• Address: 10069 E. Atherton Road, Davison
• Cost: $4/resident, $6/non-resident for trail of lights; $8/resident, $10/non-resident for trail of lights-wagon rides (tickets are $10/resident, $12/non-resident on the day of the event)

Walk through an enchanting holiday experience at Robert Williams Nature & Historical Learning Center at the Trail of Lights. At Trail of Lights-Wagon Rides (Dec. 8 & 15), enjoy a wagon ride, visit with Santa and listen to festive music. Dogs are welcome at the walking event. Pick up tickets at will call. 

Lights, Trails & Seasonal Tales at Lake Erie Metropark

Dec. 13, 2024

• Address: 20900 Oakwood Blvd., Dearborn
• Cost: $8/person; parking pass required

Walk the candle-lit village streets to see live entertainment, shops decked out for the holidays and lots of free activities. Plus take a horse-drawn carriage ride, go ice skating and watch the marvelous fireworks display.

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How Mentorship at Detroit Innovation Academy Helps Kids Thrive

Choosing the right school for your child involves more than just academics — especially in today’s world. Parents want to know their children are being cared for as individuals, and their emotional well-being is just as important as their academic success. 

At Detroit Innovation Academy (DIA), a unique K-8 charter school in the Cody Rouge neighborhood, a specialized mentorship program is making a big difference in students’ lives. This program helps children build confidence, develop social skills, and form positive relationships — all essential for a healthy, happy school experience.

The negative impact of the pandemic on students’ mental health

When students returned to school after the pandemic, things weren’t the same. “I started noticing that our students were struggling in ways they hadn’t before,” says Marina Hanna Kaminski, Principal at DIA. “They were having trouble with self-esteem and connecting with their peers.”

In response, DIA launched a one-of-a-kind mentorship program focused specifically on mental health. This program, unlike typical tutoring or academic mentorships, is designed to help students rebuild their confidence, form meaningful connections and develop important life skills.

“We knew we needed to address the mental and emotional toll the pandemic had taken on our students,” Kaminski explains. 

Successful mentorship supports the whole child

DIA’s mentorship program partnered with two Detroit-based organizations: Building Better Men and PrettyBrownGirl. These programs are designed to empower both boys and girls by fostering emotional growth and developing social skills.

For boys, Building Better Men combines activities like basketball with mentorship conversations that build trust and self-esteem. “It’s not just about playing a game,” Kaminski says. “It’s about giving young men a safe space to express themselves and work through challenges.” 

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PrettyBrownGirl helps girls learn self-love, leadership and character development through culturally responsive activities. These programs are offered to third through eighth-grade students, providing them with regular opportunities to meet with mentors during and after school.

How mentorship can make a difference to your child

At DIA, mentorship goes beyond academics. It’s about creating a community where every student feels valued, heard and supported. “Sometimes students don’t feel comfortable talking to their teachers about personal issues,” Kaminski says. “Our mentors offer a safe, non-judgmental space for kids to express themselves.”

This added layer of support helps children who may not receive the emotional support they need at home or who struggle with making connections at school. “Having a mentor they can trust makes a huge difference in their ability to handle tough situations,” Kaminski explains.

What makes DIA a unique learning environment for kids?

Parents want to feel assured that their child is attending a school where they’re not just a number. At Detroit Innovation Academy, the focus on relationship-building and trust fosters a supportive environment where teachers and students work together to create a sense of belonging and shared commitment in the classroom.

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The first weeks of school are dedicated to “Character Camp,” a time where teachers and students focus on getting to know each other through ice-breakers and trauma-informed activities. 

“We recognize that summer isn’t always a happy time for all kids,” Kaminski says. “We work hard to ensure our students know that DIA is their safety net — a place they can feel comfortable, secure and ready to learn.”

Unlike traditional public schools, DIA is a charter school, which means that Kaminski and her colleagues have more flexibility to select unique evidence-based programs they are confident will support their students’ needs. 

“What I love about working at a charter school is that if I see there is a need, for example, this program, then we fill that need,” she says. That agility can make all the difference for kids. Charter schools offer quality educational alternatives, and because they are public schools, they are accessible to every student. 

“It’s about supporting the whole child — academically, socially and emotionally,” Kaminski says.

Want to see how Detroit Innovation Academy can support your child’s success? Visit diachampion.org. DIA is a charter school authorized by Central Michigan University. Find out more at thecenterforcharters.org.

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